The Good Ones
DeeGee made an interesting observation in the comments below:
God…our threesome came about after months of flirting…that’s the best way to do it. Looking back those sexually-charged times were fantastic…and every bit as satisfying as the end game.
In light of DeeGee’s comment I want to revisit something I wrote about in my last post:
Threesomes are all about momentum. You may spend a month or an hour laying the track, but once it’s laid the choo-choo train is either moving or it ain’t. This is the hardest thing for most people to grasp. “But she’s so nice,” they’ll say. “She didn’t exactly say no.” Trust me. I’ve been there. I’m as annoyed as anyone else that women will spend half an hour snogging us only to turn down a simple date. But assuming you’ve come across in an honest, flirtatious and non-threatening manner, there’s nothing else you can do. If a woman won’t make a date, or if after a few dates she’s not ready to say “your place or mine?” then it’s time to move on. Two weeks is about the longest it’s ever taken for us.
I realized some people might be tempted to take this idea of momentum too far. We’ve come across two kinds of women in our threesome adventures: those who were looking for no-strings-attached fantasy fulfillment, and those who were motivated by a deeper connection with us. With the former group, there’s that initial flurry of excitement that inevitably wanes over the following weeks. In these situations the clock is definitely ticking.
Women in the latter group are a rare breed, the good ones. They genuinely enjoy your company and you genuinely enjoy theirs. You have to be careful not to be so eager that you ruin something that could have developed naturally. The more serious you are about sticking around as a friend the more likely it is that a threesome will develop. There’s nothing wrong with a slow burn, a little uncertainty, a false start even. It makes the endgame that much more intense. DeeGee is right—getting there is at least half the fun.
And if nothing happens, so what? What have you lost? The advantage of being in a happy couple is that you aren’t pining away for someone else. Your new friend may introduce you to one of her cute friends. You may drop the subject only to have things heat up again later on. Momentum is important but the endgame isn’t everything.
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